Happy Friday!  We have had lots of giggles and fun (and some tears) tonight.  Christian has one of his friends over for the night – which is good!  Since he is homeschooling this year, he doesn’t get to see his friends every day at school, so we are trying to make sure to have them over periodically.  It has been so fun to see him so happy tonight – having a special evening with his friend. 

You see, Christian plays the typical middle child role in our house (even though technically we have two middle children.)  It seems, unintentionally he sometimes gets left out of things.  This year seems to have been slightly better as he is getting older – so he was able to participate in football like his older brother, Cub Scouts like his older brother etc.  However, for some reason (unbeknownst to me) he still breaks down in tears more frequently than I would prefer claiming that things aren’t fair. 

For example, the other evening I had bought him 3 pairs of new PJ’s and only 1 pair for each of his brothers.  We were putting all the new jammies away when he burst into tears that it wasn’t fair – everyone has better clothes then him…  WHAT?  3 to 1, they were all the same type…  I didn’t even try to understand – just gave hugs and wondered how that wasn’t fair, while trying to console my disheartened child. 

So fast forward to this evening.  All of the sudden our oldest, Ryan, got a taste of the “it’s not fair syndrome”.  You see, when Ryan had his sleepover I let Christian sleep out on the couch in the living room while Ryan and his friend slept on an air-mattress.  Well, Ryan has had many a sleepover and sees his friends everyday, so tonight we told him that we wanted to make tonight really special for Christian; so only Christian and his friend got to sleep in the living room and Ryan had to sleep in his bed.  The response.. tears and “But it’s not fair!”  followed up with “I just want to be an only child!”  (Okay, so I had to totally laugh to myself about that one!)  UMM… sorry buddy that reign ended when you were 21 months old – it’s a little late for that scenario to be a possibility. 

At any rate… as a mom, I feel like I am constantly trying to make everything fair for my children – with little to no success.  The fact of the matter is  A.)  Life is not fair and B.)  Even if things are fair they aren’t going to be seen that way in the eyes of my children. 

So how about those of you with more than 1 child – Do you struggle with this issue too?

C-

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